Friday, March 26, 2010

Clarifying Life Change

After sleeping on it I realized the term "yearning" (in my last post) was a little vague. Dreaming, hoping, wishing, pining (for the Fjords!), self-pity are all signs of dissatisfaction. They don't even count as envisioning a change let alone yearning for one. I believe that if you want to manifest change in your life you need to see that alternative future like it's already the present. Not only will that make you open to new opportunity (as I stated in my last post) but it will also change your behaviours (sometimes in ways you don't even realize). Except for my last position change (which was one of those "external events") every promotion I've had started out with me envisioning and then living in that future state. Some changes took longer to occur than others but staying in that target state was key.

1 comment:

Kimota94 aka Matt aka AgileMan said...

As a goal-oriented person myself, I often struggle to understand why people don't set objectives for themselves (for things they want to achieve) and then just go out and hit them. I know that it's not so easy for many folks, but I don't know that I've ever understood why. Like you, I envision what I want from life - usually with the caveat that it has to be reasonable and within my power to attain - and then I think about what it would take to get there.

I've posted lots of trivial examples on my blog (like the "bike to work 100 times this year" one that got me into regular cycle-commuting) but I guess the most life-changing one (after pursuing and wooing my wife!) would be the "save up enough money to retire early from the Rat Race" notion.

Interestingly (to me, at least), in the 18 months since I made that dream a reality, several friends have told me that my success in that regard has inspired them to similarly lofty goals. Maybe for some of us, it's "dreaming is believing", while for others it's "seeing is believing"?